How to be good at stress

What does it mean to be “good” at stress? Does it mean you don’t get stressed out? That you stay calm under pressure and bounce back from adversity?

Actually, no. The truth of stress as I’ve researched it shows two important things. Firstly, that trying to avoid it is fundamentally counterproductive. Secondly, that thinking that we can emerge from stressful circumstances unscathed and unchanged is precisely the wrong way of thinking about things.

Instead, we need to start thinking about how to have the courage to grow from stress. This view of resilience was first described by the psychologist Salvatore Maddi, who founded the Hardiness Research Lab at the University of California Irvine. He dedicated his career to identifying what distinguishes people who thrive under stress from those who are defeated by it. The ones who thrive, he concluded, are those who view stress as inevitable, and rather than try…

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23 Thoughts Avid Readers Have When Someone Talks To Them While They’re Reading

Thought Catalog


1. “No. No no no no. Don’t talk to me right now.”

2. “Maybe they’ll be quick. Please just have a quick question.”

3. “Nope. They want to chat. Whyyy.”

4. “Why do they hate me??”

5. “Maybe if I don’t shut my book, they’ll get the hint.”

6. “Oh good, they’re going to ask me about the book instead.”

7. “How am I liking the book? That’s what you’re going to ask me?”


9. “That was mean.”

10. “I don’t mind talking to this person at all, but not. right. now.”

11. “How do I politely tell this person I’m busy, when they can see I’m just reading?”

12. “Pshhhh. JUST reading. Reading is a completely valid reason.”

13. “Just glance down at your book. That’ll get their attention.”

14. “Okay… glance…

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For Reluctant Readers: TV Show Supplements And Complements

The Book Wars

On Wednesday, Nafiza talked about how movie adaptations can provide reluctant readers with gateways into the world of books. (I mean, honestly, I’m a bibliophile but I guess I’m not a self-respecting one since I think movie adaptations are great gateways even for not-so-reluctant readers … but that’s neither here nor there.) Today, I want to recommend books for those reluctant readers who have either binge-watched their favourite TV show and now have a long wait until the next season, or have had their favourite shows cancelled, or have given up on their once-favourite, or even just want more of what they’re watching.

I don’t think any of my recommended books match the TV shows exactly— and for good reason, given that they are meant to be different stories that work differently in their respective mediums– but I picked a similarity and ran with it.

Once Upon a Time

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The TED2015 conference in 30 quotes

TED Blog

TED2015 theater

TED2015 featured more than 90 speakers, and more than 20 hours of talks. We turned our perceptions inside-out, saw some new technology, traveled to space more than once, heard astounding life stories, learned about unusual materials, rethought artistic expression and contemplated the divides of society, with an eye toward ending injustice.

In the end, this collection of quotes seems to encapsulate the incredible breadth of this conference. Enjoy.

“Being a scientist is like being an explorer. You have this immense curiosity, this stubbornness, this resolute will that you will go forward no matter what other people say.” —Sara Seager

“I’ve learned about the poetry and the wisdom and the grace that can be found in the words of people all around us when we simply take the time to listen.”—Dave Isay

“I believe that beauty is a basic service.” —Theaster Gates

“We’re trapped on this very thin slice of…

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Escapism: Freedom Through Reading

One of the greatest rules of thumb for surviving school, work and life in general, is to find an escape – an outlet or way to express yourself. It is important to ensure that you have a coping mechanism when a huge workload or personal drama plagues the week. Everybody needs a way to separate themselves from their reality at some time of their life – whether it be by taking a walk, listening to music, writing in a journal, watching a movie or reading a book.

Reading a book is a method of escapism that truly alleviates the stresses of daily life. It immerses the reader into an imagination that, even if it is not their work, is able to bring them into a world and on a journey that can permanently change the course of their own dreams, aspirations and thought processes.


Education is freedom – it has the power to save people from poverty, enable people to form their own opinions on the world around them, and it inspires. Reading, on the other hand, is more of a form of instantaneous psychological freedom. Through reading a book – fictional, historical, scientific, you name it – you can travel on a journey fighting fantastical beasts, one of love and self-discovery, a journey into the depths of the deepest oceans among some of the most frightening creatures on the planet, or you can simply heighten your benevolent qualities as a human being. Empathy – from being in another’s perspective. Compassion – from experiencing the rare love, kindness and forgiveness found in adventures wrought with hatred and vengeance. Love – from reading of families and partners crossing boundaries and overcoming all obstacles to be with those they love. The lessons learnt through reading are plenty, and, in some cases, the knowledge about the nature of humankind (acquired through reading) can be more mature and insightful than the lessons learnt by some human beings throughout their entire lifetime of experiences.

George R. R. Martin – “A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one.”

Whether a route to escape your surroundings is necessary, or you just want to settle down and relax, or possibly excuse yourself from an awkward conversation – reading is a perfect way to separate yourself from the stresses of any day.

So please – for your own sanityread a book.